I've recently started listening to a podcast called Bold New Mom. She talks about the many things that are tough about being a mom and how to be a better mom. One of the podcast that I recently listen to was about not feeling guilty when it come to focusing on you. I'm one who does this often.
For me being a Mom means putting everyone first and if you have time during the day then you can do something for you. I normally don't have much time for myself so usually just put my needs off to the side and tell myself I'll get to me later. And of course when later comes I normally don't have time.
Now I know that I need to make time for myself every once in a while. Even if it's just for a few minutes during the day. One thing that I love to do is shop! It makes me feel better and I get really excited when I buy something new for my family and or myself. I know that times can be tough and it's hard to put any extra money towards you when you have kids and or a spouse that needs things. Last year we had to have a tight budget. Any extra money that we had left over went to the kids. One thing that was extremely hard for me to do was take my oldest daughter out of dance because we couldn't afford it. It was heart breaking for me... I eventually got over the whole spill and realized that it was more important to have food on the table than having my daughter in dance. So when it comes to keeping a tight budget or not having extra funds I get it.
Here are a few tips on how to go about focusing on you. Sit down with your spouse and go over your budget. See where you can cut back. One of the things that we realized we were paying way to much for was cable TV. We decided that we get most of our shows through Netflix or Hulu and it was much cheaper. Once you have figured out where you can cut back then you can revaluate if you can add an allowance for both you and your spouse. When my husband and I first did this I mostly used that allowance to buy things for my kids. Once they had what they needed I started to slowly buy things for myself. And let me tell you it wasn't easy... Coming from someone who loves to shop but has been on an extremely tight budget for two years it was very hard. It still is hard sometimes and that guilt would start to creep in.
When the guilt starts to creep in keep on reminding yourself that you have a HARD job. You raise tinny humans and they all survive each day. That's deserves some kind of reward. We have to focus on us because if we don't we lose our self and trying to find ourselves again can be a long overwhelming process.
So, to wrap things up I wanted to say that you are amazing you deserve to get something for yourself. Take it slow don't go super crazy at first because the guilt will creep up on you. Being a mom is tough and I think as a mom we all need to come together and remind ourselves of how awesome we are and that what we do is HARD work and we can do it. We can be a happy mom in a happy home.
Melanie
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